What if someone who hurt or abused me in life is waiting on the other side?

“the company that was there with me looked differently, it didn't look at that scene as if it wanted justice and revenge, that being that was with me loved both the body that was there and the person I was dragging and that surprised me, it was as if it were the one thing is that it abhors Sin but loves sinners because the love I had for both of them was the same and I was able to understand that love at that moment I was able to understand I was leaving the trial for the first time and I was always a person who always looked at herself as a victim of society I looked at myself as the daughter of”49:34

“So I don't maybe I was ready. So this is somebody who did you great physical and emotional harm when you were very young >> who died 10 years before and then haphazardly almost through this medium experience from the other side he comes through and basically apologizes for what he did to you. >> Can you speak a little bit more to that? >> Yeah. So he uh a lot of times I don't think he felt very welcome in the reading. I've done this kind of work. So, like I had a friend from high school who came through cuz he was a young man”79:48

“cycle that had been going on so long and he had been carrying this kind of pain in his soul where he was coming back to earth to try to release it. And this is a difficult thing to do especially if you have a lot of anger and abuse and and pain with somebody that has transitioned in past. I hear this from a lot of people like I don't even want to hear from them because they were so mean to me and so much abuse and and I have compassion for that because I understand it on that level. But I also understand”39:54

“just snap, "Oh, okay. I forgive." It doesn't. And I'm not gonna work. It does happen. Like, I don't owe anybody anything. No. No. And you can't just snap it on like that, okay? Well, I forgive you. Uh-huh. I, I never forgave, and I, oh, "Everybody gets off scot-free is that it? We all got to forgive so they don't have to be to blame?" Uh-huh. Yeah, no.”61:27

“mental illness. She tried to kill me several times. She tried to kill herself several times. All kinds of trauma. And after she crossed over and she started showing me her life and why she was the way things why she was the way she was from an early age. All of a sudden, I had this 360deree view of her life and it was complete forgiveness, but there was really nothing to forgive because now I knew. And uh so yeah, I just wanted to clarify that for people to understand that forgiveness is not about sacrificing and”279:47

“have unconditional love and that's very difficult for people, especially if something happened. Maybe if your child was murdered or something like that, you won't hate the person that did it. It's not going to do anything for you. It happened for a reason. There's more to the story. Um, maybe the lesson was for you, maybe it was from someone else, but you know, you have to know that just because that person was taken from you, that soul is still alive. This you'll see them again. They're around you. Um,”61:46

“It does. I think that when I came back, it was like I understood that as painful as those experiences were, there was still a person who may have been responsible for those experiences, who is also hurt and hurting and, and quite frankly, ignorant of how their actions would affect another person.”9:40

“And together what we re-experienced too was that my mother, who who was the one that was very crazy and tormenting me, abusing me, I could feel and see and hear somehow all the abuse that she had had as a child. Well, I'm not sure it was something obviously between me and my mother and the only way I see any meaning out of it now is that I've become a psychotherapist and I work with people that were traumatized, abused and neglected as children and I understand their path because I walked in the same shoes. So for me the curse has become the gift because I'm using my experiences in my healing to help other people heal. So there was like instant forgiveness because there was instant understanding.”3:42

“It's like we were connected. I call it a oneness. Quick example, a nurse passed me completely unaware of me. In that moment, I felt, I experienced almost the abuse that she had received as a child, that physical, emotional, sexual abuse. And yet, in that same moment, I encountered her magnificence. It was like, wow, look at her in a hospital serving, healing, look who she is. And yet, there was no judgment of anything. It was just like, wow, everyone I encountered, it was this magnificence, this wow, and this knowing, this connection.”7:15

“feelings or thoughts about that person now? And how have you managed to let that go? >> Well, [clears throat] lucky and not lucky for me, I had the the near-death experience because all that was released at that second. Now, I haven't seen him or talked to him um heard from him, heard of him in 30 years. So I have no feelings. I It's very neutral. It was a human being that existed in my my reality 30 years ago. Um but um that said to let go of anger and resentment is not easy. It is never easy. I've had”69:20

“I felt the abuse she had experienced as a child, and yet in the same instant, it's like, but, look at her, you know, look at her here serving, healing, helping, being. And, and, and it was that way of everyone I encountered. It's like I knew them. I knew everything about them, but I saw them in this magnificent state, this, this divine state until I finally came up to a body laying on the gurney that I didn't feel anything from, which was odd given this connected experience I was having.”3:45

“For instance, a nurse passed by me, and they seemed completely unaware of me. And when I say passed by, I was not in the body at this point, but a nurse passed by, and in that moment, as if it was my own life, I felt the the abuse that she had experienced as a child, the physical, emotional, sexual abuse that had happened to her. I was aware of it and felt it and knew it.”10:19

“you learn to finally say it's all right, you'll find out even if that person hurt you so badly that you have internally forgive them and your spirit will be relieved of something that shouldn't be there. So that's why I say any kind of hate we don't want to bring over to the other side. We mustn't bring it over. It's it's I don't know that I can't explain. I just had that experience put in my mind there that it's very important to bring over love when you're crossing. And that's why a lot of times your guardians, your”66:52

“example, I passed by a nurse and she seems completely unaware of me obviously, but in an instant I knew everything like I and I felt it as if it was me. I I call it a oneness. There was a connection. I felt in an instant as if it was my own her abuse as a child her physical, emotional and sexual abuse. Like I felt it in a very real way and in that same instant it's like wow look at the magnificence of who she is. She's here in a hospital serving and healing and I mean it was you know I knew all this stuff but there was no judgment.”4:33

“What I lived back there in another life, in relation to a starting point in relation to this experience I had... in relation to this person, all the bitterness that he has come [experienced] in lives... and has... . and have... done that... in a very cruel way in my life, like a non-forgiveness, it was inexcusable for him, in a way, whether I was conscious or not aware of his part but he had to come several times and lead me to the greatest suffering without understanding that what I did there was not my doing,”2:12

“The normal dying process is comforting. It is often experienced as a preparation for the life beyond. Upwards of 70% um see people who have died um who returned to them. And interestingly, they leave out the person who harmed or unconditioned or had conditional love for them. So it may be one parent but not another. Um, so there's almost this edifying that identification process that that takes place.”18:49